How to Persuade Anyone of Anything in Ten Seconds

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You’re on the most important elevator ride of your life. You have ten seconds to pitch- the classic “elevator pitch”.

Love or Hate. Money or Despair. And you may never get this chance again. As PM Dawn says, “I feel for you. I really do.”

There are books about this. But don’t waste your time. They are all garbage.

I’ve been on both sides of this equation. I’ve had people pitching me.

But mostly, I’ve been scared and desperate and afraid to ask someone to give me, want me, love me, all in the space of an elevator ride or in the time it takes one to ride an elevator.

Perhaps the hardest thing for me was when I was doing my “3am” web series for HBO.

I had to walk up to random strangers at 3 in the morning on the streets of New York and convince them within 5 seconds to spill their most intimate secrets to me rather than kill me.

Not quite an elevator pitch but the same basic idea. I had a lot of practice. I probably approached over 3000 people cold.

In some cases people tried to kill me. In one case I was chased. In other cases people opened up their hearts and I am infinitely grateful to them.

The ideas below have worked for me in the hundreds of times I’ve had to be persuasive. Either in writing, or in person. In business and in friendships and in love. I hope variations on it can work for you. You decide.

A) Who are you?

People want to know they are talking to a good, honest, reliable person that they can trust and perhaps even like, or love.

Yes, love.

They won’t love you by looking at your resume.

You have to do method acting. Imagine what your body would feel like if they already said “Yes” even before you open your mouth.

You would be standing up straight, smiling, palms open, ready to close the deal. You have to method act at the beginning of your pitch.

If you are slouched and your head is sticking out then your brain is not as well-connected to your nervous system and you won’t be in “flow”.

I can drag out the science here but this is a Facebook status update and not a peer-reviewed scientific paper for the Justice League of America.

The reality is: when you’re slouched over, not only are you not using the full potential of your brain, but you look untrustworthy.

B) Relax

Think about how you breathe when you are anxious and nervous.

I will tell you how I breathe: short, shallow breaths in my upper chest.

So do the reverse before a ten second pitch.

Breathe deep and in your stomach. Even three deep breaths in the stomach (and when you exhale try to imagine your stomach almost hitting your back) has been shown to totally relax the mind and body.

People sense this. Again, this builds trust and relaxes you.

Now, even though you haven’t said a single word, you’ve probably done the two most important things for persuading someone.


I have a hard time with this. It seems natural to say, “yup” or “right” or “uh-huh” or whatever.

But here’s the facts (and, again, there’s been studies on this): people perceive you as stupid when you do this.

Just keep quiet when someone is talking.

Then, when someone is done speaking, wait for two seconds before responding. They might not be done yet. And it gives you time to think of a response. If you are thinking of a response while they are talking, then you aren’t listening to them.

People unconsciously know when you are not listening to them. Then they say No to you.

D) The four U’s

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By the way, I’ve googled “the 4 U’s” and each time I get a different set of 4. So I’m going to use the 4 that have worked for me the best.

This is not BS. This is not a way to convince someone to do something they don’t want to do. This is a way for you to consolidate your vision into a sentence or two and then express it in a clear manner.

This is the way to bond and connect with another person’s needs instead of just your own pathetic wants.

You can use this in an elevator pitch, on a date, with your children, on your mother, whatever. But it works.

Think about these things when talking:

  1. Urgency

    Why the problem you solve is URGENT to your demographic. For example: “I can never get a cab when it rains!”
  2. Unique

    Why is your solution unique: “We aggregate 100s of car services into one simple app. Nobody else does this.”
  3. Useful

    Why is your solution useful to the lives of the people you plan on selling to or deliver your message to: “We get you there on time.”
  4. Ultra-Specific

    This shows there is no fluff: “Our app knows where you are. Your credit card is pre-loaded. You hit a button and a car shows up in 4-5 minutes.”

Of course the example I give is for Uber but you can throw in any other example you want.

I’ll throw in a fifth “U”
  5. User-friendly
    In other words, make it as easy as possible for someone to say “yes”. Like a money back guarantee, for instance. Or a giveaway. Or higher equity. Or testimonials from people you both know. Etc.

OH! And before I forget, a sixth U
  6. Unquestionable Proof

    This can be in the form of profits. Or some measurable statistic. Or testimonials. Or a good wing-man. Whatever it takes.

E) Desire

A lot of people say you have to satisfy the desires of the other person in order for them to say “yes”.

As much as we would like to think otherwise, people primarily act out of self-interest.

The less they know you, the more they will act of self-interest because to do otherwise could potentially put them in danger. We all know that kids shouldn’t take candy from strangers.

In an elevator pitch, the investor is the kid, what you are asking is the candy, and you are the stranger. So their gut reflex, unless you make the candy super-sweet, is to say “no”.

So make sure you make your candy sweeter by sprinkling in their desires.

And what are their desires?

  • recognition
  • rejuvenation
  • relaxation
  • relief
  • religion
  • remuneration
  • results
  • revenge
  • romance

If you can help them solve these URGENT problems or desires, then you they are more likely to say “yes” to you.

I don’t know what you are selling, but hopefully it’s not to satisfy their desire for revenge. But if it is, don’t do anything violent.

The one time I had to sell romance on an elevator I had to do three things: tell her life would be ok, make sure I knew her address and last name, and send her a teddy bear and flowers the next day.

But that’s for another story.


F) Objections

Everyone is going to have gut objections.

They’ve been approached 1000s of times before.

Do you know how many times I’ve been approached to have sex in an elevator?


But probably many others have and you have to put up with their non-stop objection.

I will list them and then give solutions in parentheses:

  • No time
    (that’s ok. It’s on an elevator. So they have elevator-length time. The key here is to stand straight and act like someone who deserves to be listened to).
  • No interest
    (you solve this by accurately expressing the urgency of the problem)
  • No perceived difference
    (but you have your unique difference ready to go)
  • No belief
    (offer unquestionable proof that this works)
  • No decision
    (make their decision as user-friendly as possible)

With great power comes great responsibility.

Most people don’t have the power of persuasion. They mess up on each of the points I’ve outlined above. It takes practice and hard work.

But this is not just about persuasion. It’s about connection.

It’s about two people, who are probably strangers, reaching through physical and mental space and trying to understand each other and reach common ground.

It’s not about money. It’s not about the idea. It’s not about yes or no.

It’s about two people falling in love.

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  • Kimberly

    And it’s about Honesty and Sincerity.
    Very good, specific, useable information.

  • dadiso

    i believe i can concur. Thats why animals can probably sense emotions fear and happiness in human beings. It makes absolute sense

  • Jessica Daniels Candles

    I really don’t think you need to defend yourself James. Your blog is awesome, this post is awesome. There are people that are going to pick it apart, because they will never write great content, or have the following you have. Someone that doesn’t appreciate the best content, and is only looking at what to criticise, has major issues, and I feel sorry for a person like that.

    • Robin S

      Oh these people are just trying to help. They are newbies. They don’t know that James is beyond help.

  • Nikon James

    Thank you! I am sooo grateful!

  • Anjelica Estrella

    Thank you for sharing. I will be teaching this in my unschool today.

    • shreal

      same here i have to do this for my homework

  • jimmy

    James – very interesting read. I’d be interested in reading some studies on saying “yup” or “uh huh” while people are talking. Can you share a few links?


  • ckensek

    I’d like the pseudo science stripped out of this. Then I’ll look at again.

  • Tiffany Gregory-Strempel

    Thank you for this <3 Z-a

  • grahei

    hi i’m from Hartford WI and i think you are so talented and i’m just blown away

  • Alejandro

    The heart does not perceive emotions, it is in fact the CNS and most in part by the limbic system in the brain.

  • Pseuperman

    Pseudoscience? “The heart is a hollow muscular organ [made of tubes] to pump [induce current of] blood [electrons] throughout a body.” What happens as a result of electric current?… “*magnetic* waves”

    • drkrpr

      Cite your source, please. Magnetoception in humans has not been conclusively determined – although in animals such as pigeons, we know they have been using it for navigational purposes for the longest time. And this is the first instance I have heard of blood as carrier of an electrical current; like magnetoception, has not been proven. And that all emotional processes occur at the brain; the human heart is an organ to circulate blood around the body, as we know it. These claims made are all beliefs – they could be possible (as I’m hoping they would be), but scientifically unproven. For now.

      Also, the comment you replied to is 10 months old; try not to bump. Thanks.

      • Sona Singh

        Ok, just because your a robot with no emotions doesnt mean his way does not work. By the way, you dont love who your supposed to love, mothers, fathers, the “loved ones”, you know why? Because .. “The heart is a hollow muscular organ to pump blood through the body” You inhumane being.

      • Christine

        Here is one of many papers on magnetocardiography

        The heart has been proven to emit very weak magnetic signals, but it must be significant if not only have researchers found a way to measure these signals, but use them to help diagnose cardiovascular anomalies. Magnetocardiograms (MCGs) can be used to detect injury currents that are unable to be picked up by traditional ECGs (which measures the electrical activity of the heart, by the way).

        This research does not provide evidence for magnetoreception, as you mention, but I suspect there are electrical and magnetic interactions among people that we are unable to study for the time being.

        One question I will ask is: if you closed your eyes and a person came to stand next to you, silently, could you feel they were there? If so, how?

  • Robin S

    haha. Newbie!

  • SaneThinker

    Sex in an elevator? Was that a serious example from personal experience? I’m just curious. ;)

  • Brian Gannaban

    This article have a lot of information. Good Stuff. Very nice article. Learn more about persuasion and how to influence people. Apply These 6 Secret Techniques To Improve Influence

  • Cameron

    This got me an Xbox One!

  • Mi AcreDreams Khol

    In my personal opinion,
    the critics have completely missed the message. Why is it that people are so reluctant to change? Is it because YOU yourself didn’t fathom the thought? We are all different and have a different perspective. My life goal is to always be better tomorrow, than I am today, so thank you James. One who refuses to seek knowledge, is one who refuses to succeed, in MY OPINION.

  • Rahul Agarwal

    It’s incredible. I had read this article long back and I thought of it as kinda stupid. Then Quora happened to me and I somehow came across this articlee and I see it entirely differently because of what I now know about James Alucher. Strage things called familiarity and trust!

  • William Mouncey

    Nonsense. Al Capone himself said, “You can get farther with a kind word and a gun than you can with just a kind word.” lol

  • credulousdolt

    I wave my penis and show pictures of my goat.

  • Miguel Ro