Blog Category: family

20 Ways To Deal With The Regrets That Will Kill You

I regret the most not spending more time with my children and thinking that killing myself would be a better option for them. I was depressed. I was afraid I had let…

I regret the most not spending more time with my children and thinking that killing myself would be a better option for them. I was depressed. I was afraid I had let them down even before they were two years old. I regret the girl I left because I thought I was going to go […]

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What Are You Saying NO To?

This is what I did to ruin my life: I had a policy: always say “yes” to opportunity. If you GRAB enough opportunities, I thought, then one would work out and be…

This is what I did to ruin my life: I had a policy: always say “yes” to opportunity. If you GRAB enough opportunities, I thought, then one would work out and be a winner. What does “a winner” mean? It might mean that the goddess, Oprah, would call me. Or that money would rain down […]

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10 Ways I Learn From Serena Williams

I think I love Serena Williams. I mean, she hasn’t returned any of my emails or countless phone calls but I feel there is a connection. I see her on TV and…

I think I love Serena Williams. I mean, she hasn’t returned any of my emails or countless phone calls but I feel there is a connection. I see her on TV and I feel like there’s a spark. Maybe I just want to be her for a day. What if we could do that? Just […]

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What Happens When You Don't Care

The worst thing that happened to me in five years happened three months ago. But, wait, I don’t want to be complaining. More on that in a second. “Are you going to…

The worst thing that happened to me in five years happened three months ago. But, wait, I don’t want to be complaining. More on that in a second. “Are you going to kill yourself?” I bumped into one of my neighbors a few years ago. He had just started reading my posts. “Because your writing […]

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The Power of Becoming Invisible

I love the people around me. I love making friends through facebook or twitter or (now) google+. But what would happen to me if I “killed myself”  in social media. And also…

I love the people around me. I love making friends through facebook or twitter or (now) google+. But what would happen to me if I “killed myself”  in social media. And also killed exposure to the outside world other than for just work purposes. What would happen to me if I: A)     Eliminated (not just […]

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I Hope to God I don't Repeat the Past

[Note: for privacy issues I’ve slightly rewritten the beginning of this post.] My dad’s first marriage fell apart with him going crazy on the floor of his shit Bronx apartment. His brain…

[Note: for privacy issues I’ve slightly rewritten the beginning of this post.] My dad’s first marriage fell apart with him going crazy on the floor of his shit Bronx apartment. His brain fell apart. He threw things, he screamed. I’ve never once seen my dad raise my voice. But crazy can hit the human body […]

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I Want My Daughters to Be Lesbians

The other day a little boy, 11 years old, grabbed the head of my 12 year old girl and forced her to kiss him. She didn’t want it to happen. As innocuous…

The other day a little boy, 11 years old, grabbed the head of my 12 year old girl and forced her to kiss him. She didn’t want it to happen. As innocuous as it sounds, it was the first time her space had been invaded by someone of the opposite sex and it resulted in […]

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