Malpighian Corpuscle @asplenia: if ex said I was amazing but not ready to feel that strongly this soon and he wants to date others, doesn’t that just mean he’s not into me?
Answer:
One thing I’ve learned after a 1000 failed relationships: always believe them when they are telling you something you don’t want to hear. There is truth in every word.
So if they say, “I feel like I’m going to hurt you”, believe them – they will.
If they say, “I feel I’m too stupid for you”, believe them – they are.
If they say, “You’re amazing but…”, then believe them. You are amazing. BUT, break up with them before they break up with you.
If they say, “You’re the most important thing to me but it’s hard for me to end this other relationship,” then take a big step back and never talk to them until they end that other relationship, even if it means you might never talk to them again.
If they say, “I just don’t know right now,” then since all we have is RIGHT NOW, it really means, “they don’t know”. Believe them and move on.
So, my guess is, you probably are amazing. You don’t need him to tell you that. He’s not your mirror. And if he says, “I must date others” then it’s a guarantee that you will be waiting by the phone while he is actually in the process of having sex with someone else at the very same time. I know this. Because I’ve been waiting by the phone too many times.