How can I have charisma?

How can I have charisma? – @PriscillaPWood

It feels like I have ego if I answer this question. I can’t claim to be charismatic. But I do know what people will respond to in the long run. Try to work very hard at this list:

Be yourself. Meaning: don’t be afraid to say what you mean. Don’t hurt anyone by doing it but don’t be afraid to speak up and stand up for what you think is the right thing. Don’t be a follower.

Be honest. I’ve written before about the power of honesty. What happens when you always speak the truth is that eventually, with practice, your words speak truth to the universe. Your words become law. What you say has power.

People respond to the force of your words because they know each word has impact. Think about it, there are so many ways in which we lie, in tiny ways, even to ourselves. But if you stop it, or work on it, or practice being honest, the benefits are beyond what can be imagined.

Be kind: always have good will towards people. I really believe in what Buddha said to his son Rahula (Which I describe in “Was Buddha a Bad Father”): “Before, during, and after any thought, speech, or action FOCUS on whether or not you are doing harm.”

When you just do these things, this is going to sound corny, an inner light will shine through. People will see it. That is real charisma. I hope one day I can have it.