How do I end relationships (personal, business, etc.)?

How do I end relationships (personal, business, etc.)? –@chucklecoq

I can only answer by counter example. I have never ended a relationship of any sort well.

The last business relationship I ended I basically had a job as a partner at a private equity firm. I decided for no specific reason other than a general discomfort that I didn’t want to be there. So I just walked out mid-meeting. Left all my stuff there. Never returned calls or emails and never went back to the office. They might still have my name on the website. I don’t even know.

Very bad!

Same thing with relationships. My basic technique: Move to a new city. Very bad.

I wish I could follow my advice on this one. And I hope to do so in the future. So take it for what it’s worth (i.e. I haven’t been able to follow my own advice).

Honesty. Be up front that you are unhappy and want to leave and it’s not really open for discussion.

Love. Be sincere that you wish the best for the person. Even if you feel betrayed or angry in some way. Betrayal and anger will become part of ancient history after a short while.

If you don’t end things in those two ways I know from very personal experience that there are only horrible, horrible consequences. We only have a short time on this planet. Goal #2 is to avoid horrible consequences to any of your actions.