How to have charisma? –@PriscillaPWood
It feels like I have ego if I answer this question. I can’t claim to be charismatic. But I do know what people will respond to in the long run. Try to work very hard at this list:
- Be yourself. Meaning: don’t be afraid to say what you mean. Don’t hurt anyone by doing it but don’t be afraid to speak up and stand up for what you think is the right thing. Don’t be a follower.
- Be honest. I’ve written before about the power of honesty: http://www.jamesaltucher.com/2012/01/how-to-have-the-force/ and it’s a real power that need to be practiced. There are so many ways we lie in tiny ways, even to ourselves. But if you stop it, or work on it, or practice being honest, the benefits are beyond what can be imagined.
- Be kind: always have good will towards people. I really believe in the statement by Buddha to his son Rahula (Which I describe in “Was Buddha a Bad Father”) : Before, during, and after any thought, speech, or action FOCUS on whether or not you are doing harm.
When you just do these things, this is going to sound corny, but an inner light will shine through. People will see it. That’s real charisma.
I hope one day I can have it.