I lost a lot of $ the last 4 years, my business did not turn out the way it should. It's been rough mentally, how did you come back?

Alex Broches ‏ @AlexBroches: I lost a lot of $ the last 4 years, my business did not turn out the way it should.Its been rough mentally,how did you come back?

ANSWER:

I’ve written about this quite a bit and I really understand the pain. It’s hard to lose money and time and life on something you put your heart and soul into.

You can only come back one day at a time. It’s like mourning the loss of a loved one. You won’t get over it in a day. And maybe every day for the rest of your life you will feel the loss and emptiness of that loved on.

But every day you have to set four simple goals for yourself for THAT DAY. Every day you must improve along these lines:

Physical, emotional, mental, spiritual.

Just do one simple thing a day at first for each item. This is the ONLY way I’ve been able to not only climb back, but climb higher and higher. It has ALWAYS worked for me and nothing else has. And I have testimonial after testimonial on this ever since I wrote my first post about it.

A simple physical goal: sleep 9 hours. Or, no snacks. Or, 50 pushups.

A simple emotional goal. Think of five people you love and why. Or…if someone makes you angry, just try to replace the angry thoughts with the opposites (ignore the person).

A simple mental goal: make a list of new business ideas and what the next first step will be. You have just spent years on one idea so your idea muscle may have atrophied. That’s ok. It’s one day at a time. Give yourself time to rebuild the idea muscle. You will do it and have even better ideas because of your experiences.

A simple spiritual goal: Name five people you are grateful for. Do it every day.

If you do this, what I call The Daily Practice an describe in more detail in my book, “I Was Blind But Now I See” then all success is yours.

I’ve also been building a site, with Jay Shirley, that people can use totally for free to help track these goals and share experiences. It’s at tdp.me. It’s ready to use now (and about 2000 people are using it) but full release will be in a couple of weeks.