taspider @taspider: Live in a city you don’t like and make a lot of money or live in a city you love and make peanuts?
ANSWER:
There’s a zen story:
A guy is visiting a city and goes to the local wise man. He says, “if I move here will I love this city?”
The wise man says, “how were the people in your old city?”
The man says, “They were awful. I hate them all.”
The wise man says, “you won’t like this city.” So the guy leaves.
The next guy comes into town and goes to the wise man and says, “I’m thinking of moving to this city. Will I love it?”
The wise man says, “how were the people in your old city?”
The guy says, “they were great. I love them all and will really miss them”
The wise man says, “Then you will love this city”.
You can’t escape what is inside of you. If love is inside of you, you will bring it to the new city, no matter how different it is. But if you are escaping something, then what you will escape will come with you and you will still have to deal with it. I moved to NYC to essentially escape a relationship I was in. That relationship was then over but I still had to deal with all the problems I had in relationships. Hopefully I’ve dealt with them. I want my current relationship to work!