What do you do when someone won’t forgive? And when they have no desire for owning their part, only hating & feeling like victim? -@asplenia
We all deal with these people every day. These are called “crappy people” in my overly simplistic terminology. And guess what?
Crappy people aren’t the neighbors down the street. Or the people from the distant past you never see anymore. Crappy people, by definition, are the people often closest to you: family, friends, colleagues, and bosses.
The question is: why do you care so much what is going on inside of these other people. Only worry what’s going on inside you. And if someone is inside of your head, then get them out. So the only answer really is to ignore them. If you can’t ignore them completely, then don’t engage with them. Say “hi” and don’t let them press buttons. Respond politely. Be pleasant. But get away as soon as possible so you can come back on the computer and read my blog.